Sometimes tales remain untold and hurtful happenings lie buried in deep memories. The bonds of family blood relations weaken amid enraged emotions, frequent discord and unpleasant separation.

How sad it is when grownup children, from one father and one mother, abstain from communication due to trivial issues!

The beauty of childhood in human lives is that it is a phase full of playfulness, innocence and cheerfulness. Even if children are at times at odds with each other, there is quick accord and all is forgotten. That is the spirit that strengthens their bonding with love and solidarity.

As children pass through adolescence and enter into adulthood, a whole new world appears. There are more likes and dislikes, shifting pursuits, disparate deliberations and traces of egotism and many more little things which can blow up frequently and ruin relations.

Factions among family members lead to nothing but trouble. There is stupidity about nonsensical tales and accusations, hurt feelings, a refusal to resolve misconceptions, a persistence to expose one another’s old mistakes. Truly, with such wrecked family blood relations, it is the unfortunate parents who are the ones who suffer most from the shattering sorrow and seclusion.

What is the use of great learning when one fails to have common sense? What does it mean to be a well-respected person when one sullies the reputation of others for some insignificant issue? Why show goodness to others when one’s blood relations continue with their childish clashes? Why set an example in charity when close family members suffer in penury? Why exhibit an ardent desire for celestial grace when no sympathy is shown to one’s own siblings? What is the benefit of fame when no dutiful reverence is shown to parents?

In so many beauteous ways the Almighty Lord favors mankind and living creatures. But, we human beings out of futile pride and disregard of the ties of kinship become neglectful, nasty and full of loathing. We are, oftentimes, overly eager to achieve our cherished dreams and earn riches, while abandoning sincerity in our hearts and becoming unjust in our affairs. In fact, it is in such ways that we make our lives miserable.

It is weird that we turn unto the Almighty Lord, with repentance and hope for mercy, but towards our own family members we show no remorse or feelings of forgiveness.

When any misunderstanding arises, the best solution is to convince others in a courteous way, and if all goes well, then there is love, esteem, fidelity and peace. And if differences continue, it is probably because there is a flaw in one’s approach or an inability in others to realize the right guidance.

Sometimes, when we help our own family members in necessity, we feel that we are little lords who have accomplished much. Nevertheless, we forget that it is because of the Almighty Lord that we have enough resources and are able to support someone. Verily, the real originator of bounties and favors is the Lord of all humanity.

When children make mischief, we correct them with kindness and good advice. But, when family blood relations turn to arrogance, division and odium, then they need to realize their folly and alter their attitude. If they do so, they will be sheltered with the succor of the Almighty Lord, but if they remain haughty, they alone will be the losers.

Mohammed A. Jawad