Al-Youm

 

 

 

It seems that Misyar marriages still appeal to some men despite the negative consequences of such unions. Many men have been cheated and had their money taken from them after having undergone such marriages. (Misyar marriage is a kind of marriage carried out normally according to Islamic custom but with the stipulation that a husband and wife give up several rights, such as living together, the wife’s right to housing and money and the husband’s right to homekeeping.)

 

Misyar marriages tend to be the preferred choice of men over the age of 50. It does seem that when men reach this age, they become excited. I do not blame them for the swing in their emotional feelings or for entertaining the idea of marrying another woman. However, I do blame them for focusing on work and nothing but work all their lives until they turned 50. As a result, now that they are 50, they feel they have deprived themselves of happiness when they were young and that it is now time to make up.

 

 

For the benefit of our readers, women also experience the same. Some women, when they turn 50, may also suddenly realize that they sacrificed their happiness when they were young. The only difference between men and women is that women do not tend to marry new men in search for happiness. This is no longer an option for them, except in some rare cases. For instance, a woman in her 50s who happens to be rich might divorce her old husband and marry a younger one who pampers her. When a man reaches 50, he has the option of undergoing a Misyar marriage unlike women who do not have such options and are often on their menopause. Before we rush things and make quick judgments, we should realize that Misyar could get men into trouble.

 

 Most of the supposed “fixers” are in fact greedy people looking to make money. Aside from that, there is always the possibility of the new wife introducing herself to the old wife, something that could land the husband in deep trouble.

 

The point I want to get across is that a married couple should love one another and keep their love alive all the time, especially at the beginning of their life, so that none of them feels he or she has been deprived of love. It is not an easy thing to do.

 

We should be careful when selecting our partners. Compatibility is important. If it happens that your partner does not give you the love you want and hope for, then you should make the decision early instead of waiting until you are 50. Nothing is more painful than spending many years of your life in a loveless marriage and then deciding to end it or resorting to a Misyar marriage which will put you in more trouble.