Nisma Rafiq

Saudi Gazette

 

JEDDAH — You were playing hide and seek and accidently broke your mommy’s favorite flower glass vase. At that moment you must have been really scared, thinking how angry mommy might get at you.



When she asked you who broke the vase, you quickly pointed toward your little sister.



Your sister cried and said she didn’t do it, but you wouldn’t admit.



You stubbornly kept saying, “I didn’t do it. I swear I didn’t do it.”



You forget to do your homework, and the next day when the teacher asked why you didn’t do your homework, you think of all the possible yet bizarre excuses to convince your teacher that it was not your fault. For example: “My dog ate my homework,” “My mother made me do chores at home,” “My brother hid my dairy and homework sheets,” and the list goes on.



When you don’t prepare for your test, you tell your teacher that because you were helping your little sister prepare for her test you did not have the time to prepare for your test.



All of us, at least once, might have been late to school. What do we tell our teacher or the headmistress who strictly asked us why I was late? “My driver came late,” or “My father didn’t wake up on time (when in fact it was you who overslept).”



In all the above common situations that we face often, we always play the “blame game.”



We never accept that it is our fault, which should not be the case. 



Why blame others for our mistake? This is a wrong act.



You must always tell the truth. Remember the popular saying “Honesty is the best policy.” Stop blaming others and accept the responsibility for your actions.



No one benefits from this game. If you think your parents will scold you, or get angry at you, don’t worry.



You might learn a lesson from your mistake. Blaming others, however, will also put you in a bad light in front of your parents, teacher, siblings or whom so ever you decide to blame.



They might not trust you. And when you lie once, you have to speak another hundred lies to cover up for the previous ones. Lie withers away, but truth is ever green.



If you didn’t do your homework, tell your teacher the real reason. Don’t lie or make excuses. The teacher will appreciate your truth and might give you another day to finish it.



Your parents might set you as an example of being honest in front of your siblings.



So, don’t play the “blame game.” It’s not a good game.